Stop Arguing Start Listening

According to the Cambridge dictionary to argue means, “to disagree especially strongly and sometimes angrily in talking or discussing something.” If you read my article, “Are You Listening?” you might be noticing how well you really listen to others when they speak. Hopefully, you are practicing some of the insider tips in how to be an effective listener and speaker. Be aware when trying to make self-improvements, it’s easier to practice new skills when you’re not under pressure. This prepares you to be ready and avoid a meltdown when things get heated.

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How Distracted Are You?

Have you ever tried speaking to someone who seemed too busy to really listen?  Someone who doesn’t’ seem to really care? Maybe you encountered people who as soon as you mention you had a difficult day interrupts you and tells you how their day has been worse? They may have been looking at the phone, distracted by their surroundings or lost in their own thoughts and only mustered up a darting glance and a passing comment. A darting glance that was just enough to keep you talking and continuing to make your point. Maybe they said the “uh-huh’s,”  “really,” and ” I can’t believe that” at just the right time during the conversation but in actuality their attention was anywhere, but paying attention to what you were really saying.

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What Did You Say? The words we use impact our children

Calling all educators and parents! Do you ever wonder why your students or child seem to make what “we” see as the same mistakes or have an endless negative attitude? Granted there can be many reasons for the repeated poor choices or continued difficulties, but experience has shown me time and time again we can be contributing to the problem.

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We can help children move away from telling themselves,

“I can’t do this” to “I can do this!”

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The “Texting Trap!”

Just the other day, I was on the phone with someone who insisted on texting and not talking. I am a communicator and need to talk things out from time to time. If I’m not given this option, it is tempting to fall into the “Texting Trap” as what might seem to be the only option of communication. This texting era makes it almost impossible for both people to understand what the other person is thinking and feeling. This even applies even to adults. The results of texting a concern that can lead into a potential conflict, can be even worse or just as bad when texting with tween or teen.

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What Do Children Get When They Give During the Holidays?

Does the holiday season sound something like this? I want, I want and I want more? Are there unopened toys or an abundance of stuff and a drought of value? We love our children and they love us so, how do we teach them the benefits of giving back to others? How do we encourage them to give to others so they can be the receiver of having a sense of empowerment, feeling valued and appreciated?


Here Are a Few Easy Suggestions:

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Ways To Keep Your Sweet Trick-or-Treater From Becoming Sour!

Pacing the race of Halloween festivities is not always as swift as a witch on her broom. Children and adults alike can become very excited with thinking and planning about what to wear and who to be for Halloween. Often times the abundance of festivities, candy and parties seem to get lost in translation with even one request as you may try to set boundaries with your little one. So, if you have a little prince or princess who tends to be impulsive and whose energy is magnified with the consumption of a lot of sugar, here are a few quick tips to help foster bonding experiences rather than a sour frenzied fun for all.

How wearing the Halloween costume can help with anxiety and self-regulation:


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What is Self Awarness and How Can it Help Me? Insider Tip #2

“Insider Tip” #2- Self-Awareness:

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You may have read my how to set limits effectively and my “Insider Tip” #1-Proximity. As a follow up, I will share my “Insider Tip” #2 of developing your self-awareness.

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