Having a relationship in this day and age is a feat in itself. This is because the hookup culture has dominated this generation, blurring the lines of what stands for an exclusive as opposed to a non-exclusive relationship. People will hang out together and go on plenty of dates, and even have great chemistry, but still never really know if the other person is dating someone else and what their idea of a great relationship is. These are gray and blurry times we live in when it comes to relationships. Those who do manage to finally make it past the finish line and claim themselves as an exclusive couple though, also have their own set of problems to deal with.
This is why we’ve found the 6 biggest problems in modern relationships, and how to solve them.
1. Communication And Perception
You’d think that by now we’d have figured out the key to everlasting, flawless communication! But the fact of the matter is, no matter how much you have in common with someone, and no matter how well you get along, the concepts of communication and perception will differ and they both need to have work put in. As your relationship grows, people have the misconception that you don’t have to put in as much effort explaining things or talking about things. This is a death sentence for any relationship. There always has to be constant communication that is devoid of judgment- this will not always be easy, but always necessary.
2. The Threat Of Infidelity
Just because infidelity has become so ridiculously common these days, it doesn’t mean that it’s ever going to be okay or acceptable in a healthy relationship. The whole point of entering into a relationship is to salvage that sense of exclusivity and nurture one another. However, as things stand, there will always be temptations on both ends. In the event that infidelity does take place, sometimes it stands to be worth the effort to at least talk it out and see if you can get past it. Do your research online, read reviews, and look into other people’s experiences. You could also consider couple’s therapy. Of course, this all depends on the events that took place, and if you feel that this is something that is worthwhile and will end up making you healthier and stronger in the relationship.
3. Changes In Intimacy
With time, with stress, and just life in general, the frequency of intimacy may decrease- and this is expected and normal. The only issue is if you get too comfortable with not having sex or even affection as a part of your relationship, you’re going to be creating a big rift between the both of you. It’s important that you keep spicing things up in the bedroom, and also always remember that the small gestures go a long way in reminding you both why you’re together.
4. Traumatic Or Life-changing Events
It doesn’t matter how perfect you are or how in love you are with one another- life is going to keep happening. Unfortunately, this is something you’re going to have to deal with when it comes to having a relationship. There will be lows and sometimes there will be traumatic or life-changing events that are bound to test you as a person, and as a couple as well. The best way to go about this is to remember that it’s always better to go through life and what it throws at you with someone by your side. Always give support and guidance, and be patient with your partner, and you’ll come out the other side with a newfound respect and love for one another.
5. Financial And Mental Dependency
Without really knowing it or being aware of it, many couples find that they develop financial and/or mental dependencies with their partners. This is a big issue and takes a toll for the worse. This is why it’s important to draw the lines in the sand from the very beginning. Help each other out financially, but have separate expenses so there isn’t too much pressure. From a mental standpoint, remember that you need to go by one another and keep your independence so that you can have a healthy relationship and not suffocate or bring each other down.